a few things to know about me
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lobelia321Sometimes I seem to get up people's noses in LJ, and that always upsets me. T'h claims I have been stroppy all week and hah, he is now vindicated because even online people are noticing my stroppiness, and he stomped off to watch TV with a bowl of ice cream, cackling heinously. Strangers are disagreeing with me, this I find hard to cope with, but even people I know have said I was out of line and I didn't even know it.
I don't like it when people disagree seriously. I can only cope with it when done in a humorous banter way. I am not very good at being assertive. I tend to veer between nicely pliant and self-righteously defiant.
I get stroppy and bad-moody and then it is best just to keep away.
It is difficult to calibrate moods in text on LJ but I guess it is difficult to do this in real life as well, otherwise t'h wouldn't have noticed.
I find it difficult to cope with people I don't know in my LJ. I know that LJ is a public place but I tend to live in a self-delusion bubble of my Flist and I forget that there are others out there. No, I have to be more precise: I find it difficult to cope with strangers when they disagree with me (see point above).
I'm thinking 'this is only about some TV show! It's not as if we're debating the death penalty!' So on the one hand I want to chill out about it, on the other hand I surprise myself about how riled up I get.
Do other people get this? What is the best remedy? Just cool off and keep out of LJ for a few days? Friends Lock so only those who know the stroppy ways can read and do as they see fit? Delete the post that got on people's nerves?
How does one learn how to cope with disagreements?
I honestly had no idea I was offending anybody. I was just bantering and smitingly joking. I like Sheppard! I like McKay! I like Zelenka! I like all fanfic and I don't care where people get their inspiration from, as long as they keep the good stuff coming! I am finally seeing the show and getting excited about it, sutured even, and that was all I was doing in my post: getting excited.
Gads, was lotrips ever like this? Hm, there were a lot of kerfuffles but I kept away from them. This was in the yahoo groups days, of course.
The other night I swore rudely, and t'h said I had offended him personally because I was blaspheming. I hadn't even realised people still thought in terms of blasphemy!
Maybe I should just hie me to a nunnery. But even this sounds said in self-mockery!
*goes to bed to read Cardinal Frederick Wiseman's Fabiola*
I don't like it when people disagree seriously. I can only cope with it when done in a humorous banter way. I am not very good at being assertive. I tend to veer between nicely pliant and self-righteously defiant.
I get stroppy and bad-moody and then it is best just to keep away.
It is difficult to calibrate moods in text on LJ but I guess it is difficult to do this in real life as well, otherwise t'h wouldn't have noticed.
I find it difficult to cope with people I don't know in my LJ. I know that LJ is a public place but I tend to live in a self-delusion bubble of my Flist and I forget that there are others out there. No, I have to be more precise: I find it difficult to cope with strangers when they disagree with me (see point above).
I'm thinking 'this is only about some TV show! It's not as if we're debating the death penalty!' So on the one hand I want to chill out about it, on the other hand I surprise myself about how riled up I get.
Do other people get this? What is the best remedy? Just cool off and keep out of LJ for a few days? Friends Lock so only those who know the stroppy ways can read and do as they see fit? Delete the post that got on people's nerves?
How does one learn how to cope with disagreements?
I honestly had no idea I was offending anybody. I was just bantering and smitingly joking. I like Sheppard! I like McKay! I like Zelenka! I like all fanfic and I don't care where people get their inspiration from, as long as they keep the good stuff coming! I am finally seeing the show and getting excited about it, sutured even, and that was all I was doing in my post: getting excited.
Gads, was lotrips ever like this? Hm, there were a lot of kerfuffles but I kept away from them. This was in the yahoo groups days, of course.
The other night I swore rudely, and t'h said I had offended him personally because I was blaspheming. I hadn't even realised people still thought in terms of blasphemy!
Maybe I should just hie me to a nunnery. But even this sounds said in self-mockery!
*goes to bed to read Cardinal Frederick Wiseman's Fabiola*
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Date: 2006-03-18 12:26 am (UTC)One reason I tend to be short on here, I don't really want to discuss! I hated that part of academia, the snarky put-downs, the I-win-you-lose aspect: a very important reason that I'm not a historian.
If you don't want to discuss, say so, friends-lock, and/or turn off comments.
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Date: 2006-03-22 06:33 pm (UTC)Hope you're well! :-)
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Date: 2006-03-18 03:34 am (UTC)but i'll gladly put you on the no links list if that'd make you more comfortable in your own journal...(and this is not meant passive aggressive putting the fault on you, but really that i'm sorry about not thinking how you might not have expected to be linked!)
SGA ispretty rabid and pretty split and pretty emotional..and i brought them to your doorstep even though i myself had enough reservations to say something to you later...sorry!!!!
i'm not sure what to suggest...i just wish i hadn't had such a hand in making you feel bad!!!! sorry!!
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Date: 2006-03-22 06:34 pm (UTC)Also, I must learn to grow a thicker skin. As t'h sagely told me: 'Viel Feind, viel Ehr'.' Not that I care about 'Ehr'' particularly but I appreciate the sentiment. :-) Also see my other comments to you elsewhere, about lotrips.
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Date: 2006-03-22 07:09 pm (UTC)as for the rest. yhanks for coiming back and not letting me feel like i'd made a bad situation worse!
*hugs*